Relax deeply, because if not now, then when? It’s interesting when we hear all of these obvious statements in life and think to ourselves “ahhh that’s obvious I knew that”….Yet we still don’t act on it. We don’t always look after ourselves as well as we should.. I bet you’ve heard something similar to this, right?
How come when we finally do relax we so deeply enjoy it and we quite likely think to ourselves “why don’t I do more of this”?
Well we do all live in a world that demands so much of us, so much of the time. “When and where would we fit in time to say relax in the bath with sea salt in the water, a candle lit beside the bath while listening to relaxing music”? Well truth be told we would NEVER FIT IN TIME to do this as there is a FEAR of not having enough TIME to fit in the relaxing activity, past time and/or experience.
Listen to my Community Call on how to overcome your fear post stroke. We will never fit in the relaxing moments that we so desperately need if we don’t prioritise our time, respect our needs, respect ourselves and fill our cup up FIRST!
Another way of relaxing (separate from above) is to (as obvious as it sounds) gently be consciously aware of how lovely your life is in fact. Yes you might have tough days/nights, stressful moments for a number of reasons. Yet the actual fact that you made it into this world is a million to one. Then theres the statistics of surviving your stroke! Man oh man you are lucky to be here! Of course we do not think of these thoughts, because we are who we are and we know all that we know and it takes effort to be aware of these things (which is why we don’t). Subconsciously we are ourselves. That is a solidified fact. So why should we be grateful for that?! GREAT QUESTION! I’d like to answer that question with a question. Would you prefer never being grateful for what you have and possibly remain feeling a bit empty feeling as if there is more to life and that you are missing out on something?
In conclusion, do your best to schedule time for yourself (before you go out of your way to help others) and calmly and innerly try to be grateful for one, some or all of what you have and/or who you are. If you need some guidance on how to do this feel free to reach out. Remember you are not alone on this journey of yours.
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