Good morning, good afternoon, Good evening to you. Wherever you are reading this and whatever timezone you are in in the world, I’m sure you know, yet may not think it, but all stroke survivors are well… Similar, the same, with varying intensity/affect. Whichever way you look at either your life post stroke (or someone else’s life post stroke), it is incredibly easy to think “why me”, “why them”, “it should have been someone else but me, or them.”
Truth be told life can be tough, and the sooner you come to terms with the fact that these are the cards you have been dealt, the better. A good way to think about it is by thinking to yourself THIS IS THE REAL DEAL, let’s get on with the show!

I’d like to make a good comparison here between grief, and drowning in your sorrow post stroke. Let’s say a man named Luke is feeling absolutely terrible about the fact that he had a stroke. This is a legitimate thing to feel bad about. If Luke keeps on burying this feeling, it will never resolve itself.
The same goes for (lets say a woman named Sarah lost her grandmother that she was so incredibly close to). If Sarah kept on burying her emotions about how she felt about the passing of her deer grandmother, chances are it would take Sarah a very long time to heal from her loss. The best thing for Sarah to do is to go outside, sit under a tree and cry it out. Feel absolutely terrible about her loss. Get it all out of her system, and then move on.
The same goes for Luke drowning in his sorrows post stroke. It would be a good idea for Luke to allow himself to feel into all of his bad emotions that have come up about himself fully. Until he truly begins his healing journey.. Once Luke has done this a few times deeply he would then be ready to look at himself in the mirror (for example) and tell himself  “ok This is the real deal” lets start taking actionable steps to rebuild my life and get to a place where I never would have dreamed of getting before.